A Woman’s place

lets brew controversy, you and me.

I will attempt to go ahead and write a note that is both uninspired and without direction at the time of 1st letter typing.

This not is note about you; it’s not a note about me. It’s not a shot at any gender, or a prop to the other, it’s simply putting in words, the battle that our generation has to fight with everyday.
Yes, by our generation I am saying anyone who was born in the same decade as computers (and maybe AIDS, but that is not of any consequence whatsoever in this note, but remember, stay safe.)

I hope that serves as disclaimer enough.

Question, where is the woman’s place? More directly, is the woman’s place the kitchen? And before we proceed, ladies that was not a conclusion, it was a question, in your mind, in my mind, in the mind of everyone who did not watch Kenyatta’s funeral service live. and gentlemen, it was a rhetorical question so now you can take back you answers, both biased and hypocritical.

If we answer that question with a no, we will be saying that it’s optional that the woman be in the kitchen and to some extent insinuating that it has come of age that it be the man’s place. it could also imply that when the alarm rings in the morning, husband and wife will wake up and play a rock-paper-scissors to decide who makes breakfast, then they can both go to work, and in the evening depending on who gets the remote 1st, the cook for the evening will be who has to walk over to the TV to flip channel.

if we answer the question with a yes, we will be saying that, “the time tested ways of our ancestors are best” (in 100 years you’ll be an ancestor, LOL).this will mean that the alarm rings in the morning and the wife wakes, goes to the kitchen makes breakfast and an hour later the husband can come down, scratching, and am not talking belly, sits his self (read ass) on the table waits to be served, they both drive to work, and in the evening she will have to hurry home and make the meal.

Depending on your gender you might find yourself inclined to one or the other of the above or a modified version of either.

What is my take? What is the verdict? What has the jury decided? What is the ruling? (What is wrong with me and all the metaphors?)

I think that is a question that cannot be soberly answered by any of the genders, we cannot rule out bias, I mean we have, since Adam and Eve, been in constant battle. Since the fallout in the Garden of Eden (read garden of conveniently placed bushes) been trying to outdo each other, shall I go out on a limb right now and declare it a tie? I mean, the battle of the sexes will never be won, not with either side constantly sleeping with the enemy, literally. So can we stop fighting now, all this fighting is making me hungry, who is in the kitchen?

So we will elect an unbiased judge. Time. Yes let us make time the judge of this controversy that you and I have created.

1. TIME of old.
it has always been the woman’s place, the kitchen, everything that we are has come from the past we have lived, the fact the we are here today should say that someone somewhere did something right, the way it should be, our folks, theirs folks and all other folkses before that, it work, it has been tested, the woman was decided to have her place in the kitchen, the man goes out hunting and the woman waits, gossiping, for the husband to bring home the kill, no, wait, I just went back a million years ago, we don’t hunt anymore, (unless u r a Delamare), and women don’t stay home no more, and we have single mothers and they go to work and we have jobless husbands, ok ok ok so my premise is wrong. But we have seen men go out to look for a home-cooked meal when the same is not availed at home. Should we use the time-tested way of keeping a happy home? U tell me.

2. The present TIME
I will go out and say, 2 out 3 of my bosses have been ladies, and they did one hell of a job (get your head out of the gutter u idiot). They worked late house and came in early, worked as hard as their male counterparts and in some instances beat the in performance. The past was cut out, the husband goes out and hustles, the woman is polite enough to make the meals, but now they both hustle. To show the woman to the kitchen is oppressive, for a jobless husband to demand the working wife to cook, (ok let’s not even go there, this is a not about men and women and he is not either, and it’s not coz he is jobless, it the other thing). So should we embrace the new and share duties in the kitchen? Or should men not take over.

3. TIME in the future
no I am not psychic to see into the future and know what time in the future holds for the sexes, no I did not read horoscopes (which cannot be used as in place of CVs to show your bright future in an interview….no I am not talking from experience)…I am talking about the future you hold in your hand, the future u dictate by the decisions u make, the future of the sexes and how they relate to each other, the future of you and your significant other. What kind of a future do you want? To say that the kitchen is strictly a woman’s place and impose it on your working wife will impact heavily on your future and how you relate, benefits expected and corresponding availability. To shun the kitchen as a woman and neglect that your man needs you to serve (yes, serve not necessarily cook), at least one meal in a day will also impact on your future, his future meals, and direction it all goes.

so time has made a verdict, you cannot just look at where we have been, or where we are, we need to look at both with regard for the time to come, how you choose to mix the different elements of time depends on you, you get the recipe wrong and life will be bloated with the displeasure of an upset relationship with the one person that’s meant to got your back (yes, I meant it that way grammatically.)



One thought on “A Woman’s place

  1. I’m in the middle on this one. I’m pro roles but then with both women and men in the work place I don’t get why the woman is EXPECTED to come and do all the housework as her mate changes channels and reads the paper.
    On my part though I have zero domestic bones, I would happily do the chores everyday if the man appreciated it everyday. And I would love it if he thought: oh my baybe is stressed out and I’m here before her let me cook, wash dishes, clean the house. It does’t make him any less male. It just makes him reasonable. Or are there none of those in this generation?

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